FIrst, welcome.
A wash is exceptionally thinned paint, 90% thinner at least. I apply it to panel lines, at the base of rivets and other raised detail and where sharp edges meet using a veryfine brush, no larger than a size 0. I use a larger brush and more wash on grill work where I want to give the impression of there being open space behind the grill.
A wash will increase the shadow of the object by outlining it. I never use the "cover everything with a wash and wipe of the excess" method touted by the magazines. This is a great way to ruin a model.
Apply a wash after applying decals and after they have fully dried and set.
I've found oils work best, followed by enamels and lastly by acrylics.
Drybrushing is the counterpoint to a wash. In this, you'll use lighter shades of the base color to bring out highlights. Lighten the base color with an appropriate color, which may or may not be white. Experiment.
Older, thick paint is good for this. Use a wide flat brush and just dab some paint on it. Wipe the brush back and forth until almost all the paint is gone. Drag this lightly over the model. Paint will gather on the high points. Repeat with successively lighter shades.
Any paint will work well for this.
I don't pre or post shade but both of these give a cloud like effect the the paint by airbrushing relatively wide paths of paint along panel lines. It's an effect that may look artistic, but I don;t find it all that realistic, but that's MY opinion and worth exactly what you're paying for it.
The order of these actions;
1. Assemble sub assemblies
2. Prime
3. Preshade
4. Paint
5. Combine sub assemblies
6. Post shade
7. Gloss coat
8. Decals
9. Wash
10. Dry brush
11. Dull coat